the one question that can be asked from all sorts, everyone is curious to know.....

"do you have a boyfriend now? why not?"
cos i am happy in my present state and i have no plans in anyway to change it.
"eh, you do not have a boyfriend now, will you be afraid that one day you can't find one?"
this sounds so funny to me when the person ask if i will be afraid that i can't find a boyfriend one day. but, he was really concerned. i shouldn't laugh. i never thought that one day i will be afraid if i have no boyfriend. so i told him "when fate comes, there is no escaping for you." thus right now, i just well only wish to cherish the time i have to myself. i need alot of ME-time.
"it has been sometime since you last dated, have you ever thought of going out with a new guy?"
why must i jump into another relationship after my last romance? for fear of being lonely when everyone else seems happy in pairs? needs someone to give me love in order to feel loved by another? or what? missing the comfort of what a guy can give, alot girls says? pls... will you look as if something is wrong if you are single?
"while you are still young, you should go out with a few guys, then you will know what kind of life partner you are looking for."
yaya.. i understand what you are trying to say. the thing is, till now, life partner, marriage and kids has never crossed my mind. i can't imagine yet tying the knot with a guy and spend the rest of my life with him.. why would i think of all these when i am happy single?
"wouldn't you think of having a boyfriend also, when you see most of your girlfriends attached?"
i am happy when i see my girlfriends happily attached. i also know that one day i will be like them too cos i will be with the guy i want who can make me let go of my singlehood. the right guy is the trick! or else, i am happy being the way i am. people who are in love, do crazy things! i am no exception. = )
"how will you ever know new people when you are cooped up at work most of the time and after work, it's home straight?"
firstly, the desire of being back with my family is so strong. they are only what i think of when it is time to go home and spending time with them at the comfy of my own home. secondly, where work is concerned, i am already thinking about it, so till then!
"why not you go pick up classes you like and at the same time, you get to make new friends?"
hehehe... yes yes yes! i love learning new stuff, you know! i have alot of interests but work ties me down! languages, my dances classes, gyming, rollarblading! i am going to take them up, but i go there to learn and enjoy, not for the main purpose of making "new" friends.
"you are right to say when fate comes, there is no escaping. i think you should broaden your network and go out to socialise.how can fate comes when your door is closed?"
go out to socialise when i am anti-social? i am the kind who will be happy sitting at a corner eating at a party and best if i am left alone. just don't notice me! = ) um... you are observant to realise my door is closed now. i don't deny. but i will say, it is a matter of choice and i choose to have the doors closed now. being a gemini, i possess the extreme of characters! cold like iceberg yet over bubbly like boiling water! when i decide to open my door, i will be out and about painting the town red with passion! = )


these days, i hear these from those around me as stated above so often.
initially smiling and anwering them to rolling my eyes. what's the deal about it?
some genuine concerned and wants to know what i am thinking.
some trying to open up a conversation with me and why choose this question out of so many?
some think it's funny and tries to fix me up with whoever they think is single. hilarious! nothing better to do?

i don't think why some deserves me furnishing them with details about what i really think. with what kind of motive you are asking me this question, i will reply with the kind you deserve. those who are genuine, gets my down to heart answer and only the few knows.

i am perfectly fine being a swinging single!! = ) seriously, why do you need another person by your side in order to be happy!? i would like to enjoy every moments of my singlehood now until one day cupid comes knocking at my door! by then, i am ready to receive! = ) at this point of time, i would just like to be able to give more and focus on my family, close pals and on myself! not forgetting, to enjoy what i already have, what my loves has given me all the time and lastly what i can afford to give myself. bless and bliss (",)


momo: "grace, really right from the bottom of my heart, i hope one day you meet a guy who loves you as much as ivan does and that he is worthy of your love " thanks momo, i have received your blessings for me and i love u, for whoever you are.