我想我真的， 不小了。
最近的话题尤其是今年， 离不开婚姻， 买房子， 摆酒，拍婚纱照等等。
我女朋之一还有她父母催婚， 让她好尴尬！ 但是，也很可爱， 因为她父母觉得是时候了。
听了我都 stressed!
First thing that came to my mind, "I am not ready." and chucked everything aside. 很方便， 嘻嘻嘻。。。


Of course, my girlfriends and I have talks over these and we asked "How come it seems like other people want to get married it's like so easy and for us it is like so difficult?"
We have too much to ponder and consider?


The topics which my girlfriends and I shared with one another were:
The Proposal. Under what kind of setting would you prefer? Private or public?
The Ring. Has it got to be the sparkling diamond? What carat?
The Legs. Must your guy kneel when asking for your hand?
The Wedding gown. High end designer mtm gowns?
The Photo shoot. Fly Europe for a shoot?
The Dinner: At as many stars hotel, the newest hotel or restaurant?


Here's my take on the above topics.


The Proposal.
I am actually fine with both the private and public proposal. Public is a lil' risky for the guy cos it all boils down to how well he is in control of the situation and the ambience he creates. The thing however is, I don't like to be in the eye of public esp with a spontaneous crowd egging me to say Yes.


I think I like private more with my family and friends around to witness this Happy event! Under what setting? I am not going to tell! Haha!

You see while I can say I don't like this, that.. I guess when the time comes, it could be different cos it all depends how well the guy can execute the proposal.


My girlfriends doesn't like the idea of a public proposal cos one feels uncomfortable like funny leh, while the other thinks it can be quite tricky if she doesn't feel he is the one and because he proposed in public, she will have to say yes first to save his face only to reject the ring later in private. Hell Yeah!


Another girlfriend thinks it's really nice to be proposed to when holidaying overseas and if he propose in a horse carriage during winter.


However, one common view we all have is,
the guy should have already sought permission and acknowledgement from the girl's parents before he execute his proposal plan.  Parents must know about the guy's intention before the girlfriend and receive their blessings.


The Ring.
This is so cliche but Diamond is a girl's best friend. Need I say more? Haha!
This is also the part where guys have a headache over! They go "damn" to whichever Jeweller who emphasise Diamonds are a must have to propose.


Yes, Diamonds don't come cheap and it's value do not escalate over the years.
But, it is for a lifetime.
It is not all about the ring, but the sweet memories that comes along with it that will be etched in the girl's mind for a long time.. =)
There is just something really mesmerising about the little stone that sparkles!
Especially from the man she loves, no money can buy that moment of Happiness and Bliss!


Size.. How many carats? It should sit just perfectly on the ring finger.
Just like boobs.. Not too small, neither too big till it is out of reach for your hand. Just the perfect size, cuppable in your hand. Haha!
It is the shine that matters!
Like one girlfriend says "don't buy me a diamond ring that is actually covered all over with diamond dust lar." Oh yes...


I think it is really cute when the man round up his brothers to go diamond shopping. I would like to highlight however, provided one of the brothers knows diamonds well. For spending so much money, you might want to consider the girl's best buddy instead and ask for her opinion cos a girl will know this lil stone better and she knows your wife to be best!!! Afterall, it is something a girl likes, just like how guys know more about cars.
Carat is not that vital, it is the CUT and CLARITY that matters most guys!
A stone however small if the cut is good, it shines through.. =)


The Legs.
One says "the guy must go down on one knee." That is her expectation. =)
It is not a must for me that the guy to get down on one knee.
It's the overall feeling.
It's the sincerity I must be able to feel.
在他求婚的时候， 他有多诚恳。我要感受到， 那份感动。


The Wedding Gown.
I do not need made to measure ones.
I don't like long heavy gowns. I prefer flowy light ones.
I also need to consider which my partner prefers to see me in.
I want bare backs for the wedding dinner. 就是偏偏婚宴我要露背！ I'm weird. Haha!
If I go around 敬茶， I would like to go around in a short new age cheongsam aka 旗袍. By then I need to be really SLIM! Haha!
For brothers and sisters photo shoot, then I will dorn a short fun like pom pom dress! keke...


The Photo Shoot.
Photographer is vital for me. I must love his works! He must be able to capture the things I want to see not forgetting the mood! Can his pictures tell a story?
Beaches don't go wrong. I love the beaches! It has everything for a setting!
I want photos that shouts Fun, Natural! Not boring wedding photos.
Please, please don't ask me to stand and pose amidst trees, in swampy mangrove areas.
I think I really 笑不出。
That's why besides photographer, location shoot is also IMPORTANT.
If we are doing it overseas, it will be a place we are both fond of and has our memories. =)


The Dinner.
Arh.. Food is the emphasis here. The food must be good..
I will have the dinner at a restaurant even if it looks old, as long as the food is FAB...
It does not neccessary need to be at the newest hotel or 6 stars hotel. If it's gonna be held at the hotel, again it will be the hotel we personally like and which hotel throws in the most perks for us.
All in all, the ambience to be cosy and joyful with lip smacking food.


My beau's sister is getting really soon this year. It's like suddenly "BOMB, I am getting married."
When DA MAN heard the news from his mum, his first response "is she pregnant?" It was rather sudden to him! Then his mum went "choy!" Hahaha!
通常， 要筹备一个婚礼需要至少一年。
Some even booked their dinner venue say 1.5 year before cos hotels venue gets snapped up really fast! We have pretty limited dinner places for weddings, that's why.
But, her's is like in less than a year. Even Da MAN has questions rainbow over his head  and asks the mum " 来得及 meh?"
Everything is taken care of by her husband to be and his family.
Her dinner venue is settled. Photo shoot still considering although already placed a $350 deposit.
Gowns, make up artists and etc are still pending and she is waiting for the brother to arrange for her.
She was telling her brother yesterday "I am already 26 for chinese age, still don't wanna get married, few years later I will be scrapped off aka left on the shelf liao."
Then her brother replied "你跟你旁边那个2* 岁的讲，她到现在还没有想结婚." who was referring to me and his sister looked at me and I looked at her and went HAHAHAHA!!! I literally -_-!!!


I think a lot of things in life, no need to brood so much.
At least for me, things come naturally and I will do it when the time is right.
You know, how it's like when you go "ya, it's time?" That is what I mean.


I often say I rather date happily for 10 years then get married, than to rush into marriage so soon only to divorce 2-3 years later.
I rather be single if I am happier that way!
Marriage has got to be your life's one of the biggest decision to make and it's for a lifetime.
I am not looking at Divorce if I want to get married and I know that ultimately I want to make things work even when the going gets tough with the man I love and choose.


My elder once told me this..
"You want to marry a guy You can't live without. Not the guy You can live with. "