i have always been a very obliging person.
especially to those who matters.
even if it means inconvenience for me, or when i am tired at times.
i don't do it so that people like me.
i don't do it so that people says that i am nice.
i am never nice to start with.
i don't need recognition like these. = )
none of it.
i do it only because i like. and i am happy to do it.
if i am gonna do it against my moods, i rather not do it.
for people i don't like, you basically have no chip to bargain with me and on NO grounds for negotiation.
i just won't lift my finger to help and my eyes can easily ignore.
when i say NO, it's simply NO! N O!
no explanations, no reasons as to why i declined, rejected. cos i don't give a damn.
but i realise over time.. people tend to take things for granted.
those i like, i think they haven't really received a FLAT NO from me before.
they can't seem to accept if i say No these days, cos i have always been a YES person.
and when i detect a hint of selfishness from the other party, i guess a NO is only right cos some people are simply ridiculous and just not worth it anymore. (my time)
i have learnt that even if it's towards the people i care about, next time when they ask for help, i will find out why and the reason, situation behind it before i even say yes. instead of the other way round.
it's only fair that i know what's happening before deciding whether i can help, isn't it?
it's only fair when you ask someone for help, you make an effort to let the other party know what's happening. No??
those people who matters will put themselves in your shoes and understand without needing you to explain.
those who don't and turn their faces upon hearing an NO for it, it's time to evaluate the relationship again.

i barely ask people for help.
when i do, i have to highlight that i give the other party alot of leeway to mull over and i am okay to accept No for an answer. i respect the person's decision and i will not coerce further.
saying No in my opinion is definately way better than making empty promises and failing to fulfill later.
just how much of a person are you after this?

i loathe grumbles, complaints, negative comments and all lately... it's tiring to hear all these and to deal with people who thinks the whole world is against them, finding fault with every single thing, something i don't need in my life at all. it's energy-depleting.
my daily work is already depleting most of my energy and the last i would want to hear are remarks from people who gives out only negative energy after my work ends, or during the weekends when i just wanna chill, relax and think about nothing at all.

last but not least, everyone wants to know the effort they made, is appreciated.
alot people simply has no idea how big of a impact a simple THANK YOU, can make. = )