怎样的人，就跟怎样的人在一起。 Birds of the same feather flock together. It's true...
You can tell a person by the company one keeps. Our friendship not only tells alot about what type of person we are, they also make us who we are. A friendship is true when it brings out the best in you.

Since young, I have always been able to gauge a person's character upon first impresson even if it is briefly.. Thanks to my Pa, it is a gift from him. Then with the imprint there, I start to observe the person I just know (gift from mumma) and very quickly I will be able to see the "real" person and digest whatever I have concluded, and I am hardly ever wrong.

However, over the years, I have changed. In those days, the moment I knew a person was not worth my time, I totally cut off from the person and no friendship was formed. I can't be bothered to waste my time. Now I can mingle around with people who are not worth my time when needed yet still enjoy myself, but at the end of the night, we go seperate ways and life goes. Last time, it was impossible for me to even mingle with these people.

I knew since young, all I need is couple of Good Friends and once I decide to be friends with someone, I give moi 100%. Time, Love, Support, Patience, Tolerance everything needed to keep the friendship going. In return, I am also blessed to have good friends who are just like me, giving their 100% in our friendship. = )

There is one thing about me about having girlfriends being too attached with their partners that they are oh so in love and you never hear from them for a long time until one day your phone rings and you know the relationship didn't work out. Well, for this Should I say I can handle really well? Despite knowing after you spend time with this girlfriend nursing her wound and then the cycle repeats.. I never get angry with this ever, really. That is only because once you are my friend, regardless of what, in times of troubles I will be just there to pick you up when you fall. I won't go smirking "oh, so it didn't work out, that's why you are looking for me." At least in time of troubles, I am the first one to come to your mind.

I am however particularly wary of a type of person, this type I call 戏子。Everything that they do, is as good as making a stageplay. Why not go for an audition at Mediacorp? A person who has ridiculously smile as kind and loving as they portray 24/7 is more vicious than the person who has speech that is unkind and hurting.
My pa used to tell me when I was a young girl "不是对着你笑的人就是好，骂你的人就不好， 骂你的话听了不爽， 但是不爽前先想一想讲得有理由吗."
Behind that seemingly smile that might have most people think 戏子 is a loving person which I think otherwise, is a daggar that forms that smile on the mouth. 那笑容后面， 缠着一把刀。 Vicious not?
What a failure as a person you are, if you can't even be true to yourself and sincere to people around you?

I also hate hanging out with big group of friends, cos among this clique are smaller cliques who are closer. You can't be close with everyone in entire group bah! Then mights well go out with the few you are close to and spend more quality time to catch up on each other's going ons in life and have this friendship brought to higher level!
Okay to be fair, I only like hanging out with cliques where I don't need to be close with everyone if we are out for clubbing. The reason is simple : we just wanna have fun.

Moi also skeptical of girls who only have Guys as close friends. Either they feel ultra happy to be the attention of so many guys who can't wait to spend time with her when she is out(she also wants to be the envy of girls) OR she potrays herself so weak that she can't even protect herself till these guys are fighting to prevent her any harm! Guys are super practical, I would say. They will not spend time with you, if they are not interested in you, in the first place. And I wonder, what these girls have done to keep a guy going, to do things, spend time and etc if he doesn't get what he wants. I have seen cases of guys being lead on and the sweet token to keep them putting effort in the girl, is given little at a time. Oh wells, let's move on. Anyway, these people are never in my life cos firstly we can't even connect.

For me, a true friend
~never puts his/ her friend down in front of another person, making the friend a clown for everyone to laugh at.
~never competes with you just so that he/she stands out of you two.
~never despises you for whatever you do, afraid you bringing him/her to shame as well.
~protects you when you are vulnerable.
~is there when you are troubled and never abandons you in times of troubles.
~provides generously when there is a need.
~keeps you informed of what you should know.
~trusts you with his/her secrets and your secret can be trusted with them too.
~restrains you from doing wrong and encourages you to do what is right.
~fights for what you are entitled if you are shortchanged
~tell a person off who speaks ill of you or makes malicious remarks about you.
~feels happy for you when good things fall upon you.

Few types of people I don't need as friends.
- the very pessimisticS
- the extremely competitiveS
- the mr nice and miss nice

I don't need to emphasise more on the pessimisticS. In my other blog posts, I mentioned before, the least I need now is someone who is negative 24/7 and it can be very energy depleting spending time with them while all you want to do is cheer them up. It is never their fault and the fault lies with this world, everyone.. It's as if everyone is finding fault with them. HELLO! wake up, open your eyes and look at this beautiful world for just once! Can't be bothered to pull them up from mud. They can find their own group of negative, pessimistic friends and they will be able to relate to one another better.

Competitives are those who are always trying to be better than you aka the insecure ones. Whatever you have, they will get something better than yours. Those who also compare the job you have, the boyfriends you are dating, the new bag you got and etc. Is yours any better than theirs, they will compete to do better. If your boyfriend buys you pearls, her boyfriend will buy her diamonds that sorta thang.. *roll eyes
This type definately not a friend I need. and you will know it when it's a competition, they are not overjoyed with the small pressies they got from their beaus that makes them contented and wants to share the joy with you, But the brand, the price tag which comes they wanna let you know.
This type will also be reluctant to buy the same thing as you and after that get something better than yours. "why should I be the same like you?" they ask in their hearts. They feel they are copying or following you, meaning you have better taste than them. Aiyo... get a grip man!
It's fun to get the same pretty thing with your friends, in different colors or style.. I always ask friends where they get certain stuff they are wearing or carrying when it looks nice on them!
So, what did I just say? They are also the insecure ones...
Look, it's healthy to have competition. But not when its used against a friend just to show you are always better. True friends can have competitions too, that I call open competitions for each other to take up the challenge. Ultimate goal, is both friends will grow and become better together! That's when competition becomes healthy and for a good reason. You fire up your friend to do better, to explore territories both of you have never thought of.

Mr & Miss "nice"
From young, I already knew you can never please everyone. It's hard to please everyone. and why should I please anyone at the expense of myself? Isn't it tired to be thinking whether certain things I say, I do will make someone unhappy? Or I will not be liked by others? To hell with these! If anyone shortchange you, give them what they deserve! Everyone is of equal status. You give me crap, I will give you worse crap! 双倍还给你, good or bad.
难道我们活下来的意义， 就是要别人说我们好？！ 神经！需要人人都喜欢你！？ If you want to be nice and in the process you feel you are not appreciated, then Quit being nice to the person already! Why continue being nice and then to rant your unhappiness to another person?!
Admit it! When you are nice to people, you expect the same returns.
Genuinely nice people feels no anger nor frustrations even if what they have done is not reciprocated. They are nice because they are just these really nice people, the actions, the speech they use, just comes naturally.. They do not even ponder whether whether am I nice enough if I do this, that.. They are what I call Angels.
My Mumma and Pa are Angels in moi life... Cos their love is without conditions..
Everything comes with conditions in this society okay! Face it!

Let's just say in life, certain paths are never crossed... I am happy with the way I am and love the people I have.